A Guide to Healing After Loss
A gentle, compassionate companion for anyone navigating the weight of grief and loss. Offering comfort, clarity, and hope — this book walks with you through one of the hardest journeys a human being can face, and points toward the tranquillity that lies on the other side.
Grief does not keep office hours. It arrives uninvited — at 3am, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, in the sudden silence of a house that used to be full. This book was written for those moments.
To all who have loved deeply and lost dearly.
"You are not alone in your grief. This book is a testament to the enduring strength of the human spirit and the bonds of love that transcend even death."
"May this work be a source of comfort and a gentle reminder that your faith, love, and loss are acknowledged and honoured here."
— From the Dedication, From Tears to Tranquillity
You have lost someone you love and are struggling to find your footing in a world that expects you to move on.
You feel overwhelmed by emotions you cannot name — guilt, anger, numbness — and do not know if what you are feeling is normal.
You are asking the hard questions — "Why is God doing this to me?" — and need a space where faith and doubt can coexist.
Your grief is complex — a sudden loss, a child, a long illness, a private sorrow that others don't fully see or understand.
You are supporting someone who is grieving and want to understand what they need — and what you can offer.
You are ready — or nearly ready — to begin rebuilding, and you want a companion for the journey toward resilience and renewal.
Each chapter draws on clinical insight, real stories, and spiritual wisdom to guide you through every stage of the grief journey.
Beginning with the hard question — "Why is God doing all this to me?" — this section explores the stages of grief, coping strategies, the myths we carry about grief, and the important distinction between grief and depression.
Through real stories like Evelyn's path to acceptance, this section addresses accepting the reality of loss, finding healthy emotional outlets, building support systems, and embracing the path ahead.
Practical and compassionate guidance on physical and emotional self-care — including David's journey through spiritual self-care and Julia's challenges with social connection during bereavement.
A clinically grounded exploration of guilt, regret, anger, blame, and the role of forgiveness in grief — emotions that are often misunderstood but are a natural part of the healing process.
Creating rituals, preserving memories, and learning to let go — this chapter offers a framework for holding love alongside loss, and for moving forward without leaving behind.
Addressing the unique challenges of sudden vs. anticipated loss, public vs. private grief, and the profound differences between losing a child and losing a parent.
For those walking alongside a grieving person. Through stories like Mei's support for Tanaka and Jesus modelling comfort in loss, this section teaches how to be truly present for someone in pain.
Setting the stage for healing, the process of rebuilding, and the promise of strength and renewal ahead — this final chapter closes with a poem, a prayer, and a blessing for the journey.
The appendices transform this book into a lasting therapeutic resource — practical tools you can return to again and again throughout your healing.
From a mindfulness script to a guided memory journal template, from a Christian prayer to coping strategy guides — everything you need to support your journey is gathered here.
Dr MG Lazarus is a Senior Mental Health Social Worker (PhD in Ethics and Social Work), Catholic Deacon, and practising therapist with over 30 years of clinical experience in grief, loss, and mental health.
He has sat with the bereaved at the hardest moments of their lives — at hospital bedsides, in counselling rooms, and in the quiet aftermath of loss. From Tears to Tranquillity is drawn directly from that experience — not from theory alone, but from the real stories of real people finding their way through.
As a Catholic Deacon, Dr Lazarus offers a rare integration of clinical expertise and spiritual depth — meeting the grieving person where they are, with honesty, faith, and genuine compassion.
The Tranquillity app brings the book's support into your daily life — privately, offline, and available day or night.
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